‘Just Let go’ is easier said, than done.

We go through so much in our lives. Yet, the statement 'Just Let go' is both, the worst thing you can hear and the best thing to do. The first thing to understand is that 'letting go' means different things to different people. It can include anything, from letting go of a place, a person, a situation, or something you hold dear to your heart. But how do you let go of something without burying it deeper inside yourself, causing more harm?

​The fact is, you can't let go of something you haven't had time to process. The emotions that you are feeling are real. You can't just deny them or push them aside, and they are not going away. They are sitting deep inside you, stewing, fermenting, and building pressure until the slightest trigger causes you to explode. The worst part of this is you get to experience the thoughts/feelings all over again, repeating over and over in your mind.

How can you process to allow yourself to let go and move on with your life?
The second thing you need to understand is that the process of 'Letting go' will look different for each person and each situation and feeling. Still, the primary purpose of processing is to allow yourself to experience what you are feeling and grow from it. So then, the vital mind shift of 'letting go' can happen naturally.

There are two things to keep in mind that will help make the mind shift needed for change easier:

1. You cannot control other people. Release responsibly for things you have no control over.
2. Everyone makes mistakes. Your mistakes are in the past and cannot be undone. So, accept the past and focus on the present. Your future is reliant on the choices you make today.

Now for some suggestions on processing your thoughts and feelings. Again, your way of processing may look different. Do what feels right to YOU.

1. Journal: write down everything that you are thinking and feeling. Let it all out. Write a letter to yourself comforting and supporting yourself as if you were talking to a loved one. Or write a letter to another person expressing your feeling. Again, let it all out! 
2. Meditation: can help us stay present while acknowledging our feelings in the present moment without judging them. The practice can also make us aware of any physiological symptoms that you may be carrying in the way of tension due to unresolved feelings. If you are still trying to come to terms with what you are feeling, meditation can also assist with recognizing and labeling your feelings.
3. Venting to a supportive friend or family member is a great way for people who are verbal processors and enjoy sharing their feelings. "Talking it out can be helpful, even if you are ranting and venting out loud to yourself."
4. Find a creative outlet, like painting, writing, dancing, or exercising. A creative outlet can allow you to express yourselves in a non-verbally way. Creative activities can be helpful for people who internalize their emotions.

I hope you found this helpful. 
​Love & Hugs!
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Divinia
Lillian Kaiser M.Sc. & Rev.
Executive Leadership Consultant
& Professional Life Coach