We go through so much in our lives. Yet, the statement 'Just Let go' is both, the worst thing you can hear and the best thing to do. The first thing to understand is that 'letting go' means different things to different people. It can include anything, from letting go of a place, a person, a situation, or something you hold dear to your heart. But how do you let go of something without burying it deeper inside yourself, causing more harm?
The fact is, you can't let go of something you haven't had time to process. The emotions that you are feeling are real. You can't just deny them or push them aside, and they are not going away. They are sitting deep inside you, stewing, fermenting, and building pressure until the slightest trigger causes you to explode. The worst part of this is you get to experience the thoughts/feelings all over again, repeating over and over in your mind.
How can you process to allow yourself to let go and move on with your life?
The second thing you need to understand is that the process of 'Letting go' will look different for each person and each situation and feeling. Still, the primary purpose of processing is to allow yourself to experience what you are feeling and grow from it. So then, the vital mind shift of 'letting go' can happen naturally.
There are two things to keep in mind that will help make the mind shift needed for change easier:
Now for some suggestions on processing your thoughts and feelings. Again, your way of processing may look different. Do what feels right to YOU.
Love & Hugs!
Lillian Kaiser M.Sc. & Rev.
Executive Leadership Consultant
& Professional Life Coach